Fatal Online Dating Errors-Women
Fatal Online Dating Errors-Men
So I'd looked at both of these articles this blogger wrote, and while agree, I feel there is some things he missed on the men's side. Now notice on these entries women have 14 fatal mistakes while men only have 10. I find that impossible.
Some good points I find true for some of my female friends, not necessarily me.
I will agree that I don't have a lot of updated good pics, so I may put up picks that are older that make me look good. (Number One blunder-women)7. Don't be so self-absorbed. I've seen many women's profiles that say, "I want a man to be this," "I want a man to do that," "I want a man to cherish me," "I want a man to adore me"... You list all your "I wants" without listing what YOU will bring to the relationship. So you end up looking like you're a taker and not a giver. No man wants to be with a taker; he wants to be with someone who's equally willing to give and to receive.8. Don't list your financial desires like you're posting a want ad. I've seen too many women write, "I'm looking for a man who will spoil me, buy me great things, and take me on great trips." You come across as a gold digger. Instead say, "I like the finer things in life to share with somebody," so you don't come across so harsh.10. Stop listing all your rules. Don't write things like "A perfect first date MUST be dinner" or "The man I date HAS to wear suits." Women tend to list rules in their profiles. Be open to a different kind of first date, or the kind of guy who wears jeans to work.11. Stop sending winks. When is the last time you went to the supermarket, saw a cute guy and winked at him? Winks went out of style when "Happy Days" went off the air. You don't like it when men send you a wink. You think it makes him seem lazy and like he didn't read your profile. We think the same thing! So stop winking and start typing.12. If you write to a man and he doesn't write you back, don't write a nasty follow-up email and ask him why he didn't write you back. If a man doesn't respond to you, it's the same thing as when you don't write a man back. It means that he is not interested. Don't get angry, just find another person.13. We know you're looking at us, because we see that you've viewed our profile every day. Say "hello!" We're not going to bite. Lob that email in.Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted. You never know what might happen!Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted.
14. If a guy who you're interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away. Don't make him wait four days. He may find someone else in the time you wait to write him back. Keep the momentum going!I have found when online dating that if you're honest about who you are, and you get back to people immediately, you'll get the date faster and avoid all the back and forth games that go on. Now go change that profile!
Some good men's points:
1. Don't ask her how much she weighs or what her measurements are. You might as well just tell her you only want to sleep with her and you have no interest in getting to know her, because that's what she's going to think if you ask her this.2. Don't email her seven times asking her why she hasn't responded to your first email. Women get far more email than men do, so you need to be patient.Instead of harassing her, relax and be confident that she's going to respond to you.3. Don't ask her how many other dates she's been on from Yahoo! Personals. How many other dates someone has been on is not important. What is important is finding out whether the two of you click when you hang out.4. Don't send her a nasty email if she hasn't responded to you after several emails. It's her prerogative whether or not she desires to be in contact with you. If she doesn't want to meet you, why get angry and nasty? There are plenty of other women out there who you can contact.5. Don't ask her if she wants to have sex with you on the second email exchange, and don't send her dirty pictures of you. Women are all about connecting with their minds. Just because you're looking for a quick fling, that doesn't mean she's going to respond.6. If she gives you her phone number, don't wait a week to call her. By extension, if you do wait a week to call her and she doesn't call you back, don't be shocked. Women have many options online. If she gives you her phone number, I suggest calling her that day. It keeps the momentum going.7. When asking for more pictures, do so without any references to "Can you please send me a picture so I can see your body?"Ask her if she'd like to exchange more pictures, which means you send some and she sends some. Several women have complained to me that men ask them to send pictures of themselves in bikinis or other such things, so that men can see their body. Men, don't do this!8. Don't get offended if she doesn't want to talk to you on the phone right away and/or wants to talk to you via email first to get to know you. You need to be flexible and open to her suggestions. Sometimes you may need to email back and forth for a week, and sometimes she'll give you her phone number right away. Either way, don't be rude.9. Do not email-stalk her. Many of my clients who are single women have complained to me about men who will email them several times a day for three weeks, until they are forced to block emails from those men. Men, she got your email the very first time. She just may have chosen not to open it. By sending emails several times a day, not only are you turning her off, you're freaking her out! You've become an online stalker. That's a guarantee she'll never go out with you.10. Don't send cut-and-paste emails. When connecting with her for the very first time, don't cut and paste an email message in July that you've been sending out for six months with a tagline that says, "I love the holidays." By doing that, she knows you didn't read her profile - and that you're really, really lazy!
Just a few of my points to add:
- Stop with the penis pics. If I date you and think you're a good catch, I will see your penis eventually I'm sure.
- The email thing applies to Myspace, if I read your message and you know it and I don't get back to you right away, don't get offended. I got your message, relax. I'm not dead.
- When writing an ad, don't say your only looking for a specific body type. It pisses me off and makes you look narrow minded. Saying shit like "sorry not into big girls" or "must be athletic" makes you look like a fool. Give the rest of us a chance.
- The same applies to race. "Looking for Asian girl". Well then, good luck. Why don't you go to Asia you may have better luck. Just because a girl isn't Asian doesn't make her not attractive to you. Surprise yourself and try Indian, or White or Hispanic or something.
- Don't say it's your first time doing this (posting an ad). First of all, it's a load of bullshit, or even if it is, I don't need to see your insecurities. Point out the good parts about you.
- Being too specific on what your looking for in general. I'm not going to find a perfect guy, you're not going to find a perfect girl.
