Afghanistan Allowing Rape? That's Absurd.

CNN Article

I don't the official ruling on this yet, but I do know that this issue is still being discussed.

I understand that Arab people or people of the Islamic faith differ than us, but this is a human right issue.

Rape is unacceptable and unwanted. Women should not be controlled in any way, shape or form. It is hurtful on both parties. It is obviously hurtful for the women in both a physical and emotional way. But for a man, it hurts them as well. They don't get to appreciate the woman's worth. They just, for lack of a better term, "do their job".

I also don't understand lately with the politicians around the world who don't "read before they sign". Between the pages of the bailout that no one read, and this fool in Afghanistan not reading before he signed, I'm starting to wonder is anyone literate anymore.

I understand we are in a "face paced world", but for the love of God, for something that effects millions of lives, you would think that people would at least take their time on things that can potentially be harmful.

But then who are we kidding? Most of the people voting or in charge of these laws are men, and we know that they don't have "feelings". (Note the sarcasm.)

If women ran the world, or at least part of it.....

Things I wish guys would stop doing online

Fatal Online Dating Errors-Women
Fatal Online Dating Errors-Men

So I'd looked at both of these articles this blogger wrote, and while agree, I feel there is some things he missed on the men's side. Now notice on these entries women have 14 fatal mistakes while men only have 10. I find that impossible.

Some good points I find true for some of my female friends, not necessarily me.

7. Don't be so self-absorbed. I've seen many women's profiles that say, "I want a man to be this," "I want a man to do that," "I want a man to cherish me," "I want a man to adore me"... You list all your "I wants" without listing what YOU will bring to the relationship. So you end up looking like you're a taker and not a giver. No man wants to be with a taker; he wants to be with someone who's equally willing to give and to receive.

8. Don't list your financial desires like you're posting a want ad. I've seen too many women write, "I'm looking for a man who will spoil me, buy me great things, and take me on great trips." You come across as a gold digger. Instead say, "I like the finer things in life to share with somebody," so you don't come across so harsh.

10. Stop listing all your rules. Don't write things like "A perfect first date MUST be dinner" or "The man I date HAS to wear suits." Women tend to list rules in their profiles. Be open to a different kind of first date, or the kind of guy who wears jeans to work.

11. Stop sending winks. When is the last time you went to the supermarket, saw a cute guy and winked at him? Winks went out of style when "Happy Days" went off the air. You don't like it when men send you a wink. You think it makes him seem lazy and like he didn't read your profile. We think the same thing! So stop winking and start typing.

12. If you write to a man and he doesn't write you back, don't write a nasty follow-up email and ask him why he didn't write you back. If a man doesn't respond to you, it's the same thing as when you don't write a man back. It means that he is not interested. Don't get angry, just find another person.

13. We know you're looking at us, because we see that you've viewed our profile every day. Say "hello!" We're not going to bite. Lob that email in.

Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted.

Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted. You never know what might happen!

14. If a guy who you're interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away. Don't make him wait four days. He may find someone else in the time you wait to write him back. Keep the momentum going!

I have found when online dating that if you're honest about who you are, and you get back to people immediately, you'll get the date faster and avoid all the back and forth games that go on. Now go change that profile!

I will agree that I don't have a lot of updated good pics, so I may put up picks that are older that make me look good. (Number One blunder-women)

Some good men's points:

1. Don't ask her how much she weighs or what her measurements are. You might as well just tell her you only want to sleep with her and you have no interest in getting to know her, because that's what she's going to think if you ask her this.

2. Don't email her seven times asking her why she hasn't responded to your first email. Women get far more email than men do, so you need to be patient.

Instead of harassing her, relax and be confident that she's going to respond to you.

Instead of harassing her, relax and be confident that she's going to respond to you.

3. Don't ask her how many other dates she's been on from Yahoo! Personals. How many other dates someone has been on is not important. What is important is finding out whether the two of you click when you hang out.

4. Don't send her a nasty email if she hasn't responded to you after several emails. It's her prerogative whether or not she desires to be in contact with you. If she doesn't want to meet you, why get angry and nasty? There are plenty of other women out there who you can contact.

5. Don't ask her if she wants to have sex with you on the second email exchange, and don't send her dirty pictures of you. Women are all about connecting with their minds. Just because you're looking for a quick fling, that doesn't mean she's going to respond.

6. If she gives you her phone number, don't wait a week to call her. By extension, if you do wait a week to call her and she doesn't call you back, don't be shocked. Women have many options online. If she gives you her phone number, I suggest calling her that day. It keeps the momentum going.

7. When asking for more pictures, do so without any references to "Can you please send me a picture so I can see your body?"

Ask her if she'd like to exchange more pictures

Ask her if she'd like to exchange more pictures, which means you send some and she sends some. Several women have complained to me that men ask them to send pictures of themselves in bikinis or other such things, so that men can see their body. Men, don't do this!

8. Don't get offended if she doesn't want to talk to you on the phone right away and/or wants to talk to you via email first to get to know you. You need to be flexible and open to her suggestions. Sometimes you may need to email back and forth for a week, and sometimes she'll give you her phone number right away. Either way, don't be rude.

9. Do not email-stalk her. Many of my clients who are single women have complained to me about men who will email them several times a day for three weeks, until they are forced to block emails from those men. Men, she got your email the very first time. She just may have chosen not to open it. By sending emails several times a day, not only are you turning her off, you're freaking her out! You've become an online stalker. That's a guarantee she'll never go out with you.

10. Don't send cut-and-paste emails. When connecting with her for the very first time, don't cut and paste an email message in July that you've been sending out for six months with a tagline that says, "I love the holidays." By doing that, she knows you didn't read her profile - and that you're really, really lazy!

Just a few of my points to add:

• Stop with the penis pics. If I date you and think you're a good catch, I will see your penis eventually I'm sure.
• The email thing applies to Myspace, if I read your message and you know it and I don't get back to you right away, don't get offended. I got your message, relax. I'm not dead.
• When writing an ad, don't say your only looking for a specific body type. It pisses me off and makes you look narrow minded. Saying shit like "sorry not into big girls" or "must be athletic" makes you look like a fool. Give the rest of us a chance.
• The same applies to race. "Looking for Asian girl". Well then, good luck. Why don't you go to Asia you may have better luck. Just because a girl isn't Asian doesn't make her not attractive to you. Surprise yourself and try Indian, or White or Hispanic or something.
• Don't say it's your first time doing this (posting an ad). First of all, it's a load of bullshit, or even if it is, I don't need to see your insecurities. Point out the good parts about you.
• Being too specific on what your looking for in general. I'm not going to find a perfect guy, you're not going to find a perfect girl.

If I remember or see anything else that pisses me off that guys do I will post here. And with the Top 10 for Men that this writer posted, has happened to me. I had guys stalk me, demand sex, the picture nonsense and what have you. So kudos to David Wygant.

Fashion Faux Pas In Plus Sized World

I have some of the biggest issues with the fashion world when it comes to plus sized clothing. Oprah tends to run these episodes where she has women made over, or have them literally being stripped of their old clothes and telling them what to wear and gives these suggestions to the audience. I have a huge issue in this field as it is nearly impossible for a plus sized women to dress. Oprah can give all the advice in the world, but that doesn't stop the fashion industry from making hideous clothes or making it nearly impossible to afford. Let me explain.

The pictures above are taken from Fashionbug.com, Ebay.com, and a few plus sized clothing websites. Now the top picture is from some fashion show in which I would love to kill the person who took that photo and let that on the Internet. First of all, her hair is an absolute rat's nest. Her skin is way pale for that dark eyeshadow. I know they are trying to advertise for plus sized lingerie, but I honestly think they would've had a better model. Not only that I think that whole thing makes her look like a prostitute. That has to be the most hideous picture I have ever seen in my entire life.

The second picture is advertising for the plus sized pregnant mom. I understand that the point of the sweater is to make sure the belly sticks out a bit, but again it is not flattering to the pregnant mom. I would never show my face in public if I was wearing that sweater while being that pregnant. There is other flattering maternity clothing.

Below it is a girl's pair of jeans, in which my daughter (if I had one) would never be caught dead wearing. It is not flattering to any young girl, all you have to do is throw on a purple shirt and she would be Barney. A bright green color and jeans mixed with a big girl equals disaster.

Jeans in general should be designed better. I hate walking into stores like Fashion Bug and finding jeans that are hideous. They tend to be over baggy, too tight, "mom" jeans, elastic waist, too pale or that stupid "washed" color. And any good jeans that you do find are way too overpriced. It really doesn't cost that much to add a few more inches of cloth.

I've noticed places like Walmart will charge an extra dollar or two for XXL or bigger clothing. It is a matter of a few cents to make it bigger, so at this point all Walmart is doing is trying to get a bigger profit out of the big people.

Another big pet peeve of mine is the next picture which shows a tank top. Whose arms are that fricking big? Granted I know that I am big but seriously some of the armholes are large enough to stick my thigh in. I hate trying to buy tank tops because I tend to buy some that are slightly smaller just so that my bra doesn't show through the arm hole. It's really sad that these designers think that all big women have these huge arms. They supposedly use these "fit models" that try on the clothes these designers make before they market them. I think they should do a better job in that department, because they mostly suck.

Designs are really important too, and I want to know why the things that no woman should ever wear they make large quantities. Everytime I shop I see bad clothing in large quantities but find few good pieces in the mix . For example, the only way any woman should wear that shirt in the last picture has to have a belt, or it will look terrible. Not only that, I saw there was a matching skirt with it. No way in hell should it be worn. I like how I also see faded jeans (a big no-no), or tacky prints and designs on shirts and jeans.

I think Oprah should have a show on showing designers how to make actual plus size clothes, and affordable for the everyday woman. Like nice jeans at $20 and a shirt that costs $10 and actually looks really good. We know how to look good, we need the designers to make us look good.

How Many Licks does it take to get a Dick?

Ladies, you having trouble getting a man? Well no problem, thanks to the internet its a piece of cake. All you have to do is im a guy and ask for his pic. Then he promptly sends you a pic of his dick.

Does this happen to you? It sure in hell happens to me. Men think the first thing I want to know about him is his penis size. I don't give a shit about penis size, and really, I don't give a shit about the penis either, although I hope that they actually have one.

I am looking for a man, a real man, a man that shows me his FACE not his dick first. And I actually want to know who the hell you are. I want to know your favorite color, your least favorite food, what music you can't stand, and what are your biggest pet peeves. How hard is that? Its sad that men do not have the balls (no pun intended) to show their face in a picture, or show me what they like. Men aren't on earth just for sex, and if you are a man and think that, your an idiot. Oh wait, I have one of those friends, and as much as I love him, he is an idiot.
I know men aren't big on talking, but rather than showing me your dick, why don't you show me things if you don't want to talk?

So many men over the years send me these pictures of their dicks, and one of these days I am tempted to take every single last one and make a collage and put their name and screen name and whatever they have and say "Here ladies, feast on that!" Then put the collage as my main facebook or myspace picture.

I just got another pic of a dick today, and I was like thats it I had it. Be a man. The manliest thing a guy could do for me right now is flex some muscles or show a pic of them winking at me. That would be hot.

Dicks are overrated; and save those for the strip club, not for meeting a woman. Thank you!